Stop Asking The Question "Why?"

Life has never been perfect and it never will. Every new day breeds new challenges, problems and equal opportunities to either succeed or fail. And the question of where you will be at the end of each day can only be answered by no one but you.

Majority of people are too overwhelmed with their problems that they see nothing but darkness in their predicaments and as a result, miss the essence of their lives. There are trillion reasons why you should hide under the oasis of excuses and clamour as to where you are right now. But the prudent and focused are always on the go, seeking ways to move from where they are right now to where they would love to be.

“My life really sucks…I am no good and nothing I ever do results to what I have always wanted”. “Nobody loves me. I am simply worthless and I can’t take it anymore…” These and many more are statements some have based their lives on. They are frustrated, feeble and have lost the motivation for living.

To this fact, one would discover that those in the bracket of the depressed, anxious and angry about life have succumbed themselves to just existing and not living. They are swayed by the wind of change and circumstances, and find it difficult to control their lives.

Such people, however, have been asking the wrong questions of “why?” born of self-pity, anguish, guilt and fear. They ask:

Why has God forsaken me?

Why can’t I just succeed for once?

Why am I so worthless and useless?

Why do my family and friends hate me so much?

Why? Why? Why?

In the words of John P. Foppe, “the question of “why?” is futile. You never get answers to them and the end product is doubts.” Foppe said “doubts are one of the worst mental and emotional handicaps any person can experience. Doubts give you nothing to hold on to during tough times and nothing to look forward to in days ahead.

The truth is that we simply cannot understand the reasons for many things that happen in our lives. At the same time, we sure can determine how to respond to such things when they occur. Often times, it is how we respond to the circumstances and problems in our lives that decides where both we and the problems will end.

Basically, challenges and problems are fundamental parts of our existence that add spices to our lives. Without them, we wouldn’t know what it means and how it feels to be without them. To this end, one must start asking the right question of “what?” we would love our lives to be like.

Our psychological orientations must be fraught with optimism and hope. Our mindsets must be solution driven and geared towards asking and answering the question of “what?” in our lives. Doubts must be downplayed and every circumstance must be perceived as an opportunity to attain fulfillment.

Ultimately, it is far more important to let go of the “whys?” in our lives and start asking the “what?” question of:

What do I have control over?

What do I have to change in my life?

What can I change?

In what direction do I need to move?

What are my odds to live a happy life?

What are the possibilities and benefits in my predicaments?

What? What? What?

Once we begin to ask these questions in our lives and do away with the “whys?” we would be exposed to opportunities to change our circumstances and predicaments. Our lives would have a whole new meaning and every stumbling stone would turn out to be a stepping stone in our quest to live worthy lives.

Let no one tell you otherwise, you have in your hands the key to your liberation. And by asking the questions of “what?” instead of “why?” you stand a chance to attain the kind of life you had wished for yourself.

Look on the brighter side of life and you will discover that all you have been missing are as a result of the questions you have been asking yourself. Stop asking the question “why?” and start asking “what?” then, you will see your life taking a whole and prosperous new turn from frustration to fun, and from pain to pleasure.