Whiners Are Never Winners

So many of us would never get to where we had hoped to get to in life because we have filled our lives with so much negativity and cynicism. We don’t see possibilities in our situations but rather choose to clamour, murmur and nag about anything and everything in our lives.

At every slightest provocation, we tend to have cause to break loose our anger and vent our burden of discomfort on others. Some people are just too addicted to a life of suffering and sorrow that the only attitude they could nurture is that of faultfinding and whining.

Very few seem to understand that there is great danger in complaining. It corrupts and pollutes out thoughts, leaves us with horrendous attitude toward life and frustrated with who we are. Majority are used to a life of grumbling often because something and someone has not gone the way they had wanted it to. The missing word here is “Contentment”- They are never content and satisfied with their lives.

Sometimes, I tend to wonder how many people really understand what it means to live. Some believe in their minds that life for them must always be rosy and filled with ease. They tend to be dead to the components of life’s duality- good and evil, pain and pleasure, etc- which is inevitable to human existence.

People complain with their mouths and hearts, and in their thoughts. They complain about their jobs, their bosses, their friends and families. They complain about virtually anything and everything in their lives, when all they simply need to do is to live in content; being grateful and appreciative of the little things they possess that make life worth living.

The air we inhale; someone to love who loves us back; a shelter to inhabit; a family to fall back on in times of tribulation, among other things we fail to acknowledge as blessings in our lives. Do you ever imagine yourself sleeping under the bridge, famished for months with just a single cloth on? Do you imagine yourself being a mendicant, trampled upon by the rich and mighty in the society with their money and fame? If you do, you would know that you ought to be grateful at all times.

Our world is fraught with so much grumbling and murmuring and so little gratitude and appreciation. Many poor people out there would be thrilled to have the job you complain about. Some would count it blessed and favored to just be in your shoes for a day. And as worse as you think your situation maybe, there is always something to be grateful for.

Little do you know that there is always something to people envy about you. Your genuine smile, love from your family and friends, good health, peace of mind, the fact that you have kids to call you mummy or daddy, and a whole lot of well-wishers that the lonely and pariah on the street have no privilege to possess.

Maybe you do need a better job, a good house, a nice car and someone to call your own (a husband or a wife). Maybe your boss treats you unfairly and your families just don’t care whether you die or live. It is rather unfortunate but the way out is not through complaining or feeling rejected.

If everything were to be easy in life, no one would have a reason to clamour. But even when things aren’t that easy for you, whining, murmuring and grumbling really won’t solve anything. You have to understand that sometimes, the hard way might just turn out to be the best way. Nothing worth having comes that easy; you have to work for it with contentment, commitment and not complaining.

Bob Gass once said: “Your success in life will be adversely affected by prejudice, fear, and any form of discrimination you allow to colour your thinking.” In my view, happiness and success never walk with someone who chooses to clamour at every slightest opportunity. For you to have a better life, you must first choose to change your thinking and attitude both in good and bad times.

Be thankful for what you already have and you won’t have something to complain about. Be content with your life, savoring each moment today while anticipating tomorrow. In perilous and thorny times, have patience. Joyce Meyer said: “patience is not the ability to wait but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.”

She also said that you will never go forward in any positive way as long as your thoughts and conversation are filled with complaining. It is never easy not to complain when there is every reason to, but you must choose not to, if you have a dream to fulfill, a worthy life to live and a goal to achieve.

It is imperative you know that complaining moves you farther away from your goal and from actualizing your dreams. Those who clamour never achieve anything great but are rather enslaved by regrets, dejection and frustration.

In this vein, you must learn to accept your reality with gratitude and appreciation; believing that there is always sunshine after the rain and gain after the pain. Learn to be patient, hopeful, faithful and to persevere. No matter how tough and rough your life may be right now, don’t be caught complaining because ultimately, “Whiners are never Winners.”